Not for me... ;-) Just to make things clear from the beginning.
Still, the annoucement stands.
I'm sure, especially in our middle-eastern traditions, many of you have heard some people, especially a mother, asking around to find a bride for her beloved son.
That's what happened with me this morning. A distant relative, a mother, was telling me about her son, 40 years old, smart, handsome, very well educated, working in France, very nice position... etc. etc...
That's great for now... Then, out of the blue, she asks me if I know any nice girl that could make her son happy and become his future bride.
I didn't know how to respond without offending her.
Here she was all serious and eager to arrange her son's marriage, and she's expecting me to find her future daughter-in-law. I couldn't tell her that if that was that easy I would have found a wife for me :-)
I couldn't tell her bluntly that this is a strictly personal question, and that only her son could find his other half.
I can't blame a mother for trying to think of the best for her son.
But at the same time, I think it's time we learn that each person needs to build his/her future with their hands, even if this will be at the cost of making mistakes or doing things differently from what we expect.
Anyway... If anyone of you knows a nice girl looking for a nice husband... Let me know :-)
2 comments:
A very hilarious and bitter subject.
It is also very delicate.
The funny thing is that Arranged Marriage is still ON.
The bitterness comes from the fact that sometimes, even uptill now, many men haven't elaborated such a solo-facility for choosing the best for themselves, or for seizing some chances .. they are always awaiting the Right Person .. without even trying to define what is Right? or Who is Right?
The matter is confusing, as well.
Spouses Matcher is an old trade. The women's speech lead to millions of marriages. Whether this was wrong or correct, whether this IS wrong or correct: People who got married - the persons entitled to argue and debate the issue - seem very much satisfied with what they have got.
:) So, why bother?
On a different scale, another question should be taken into consideration: Why do they accept?
I think the answer is that because they are in need of someone to search for them... Searching and finding a bride sometimes is harder than marrying a girl ;-)
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I've enjoyed reading you tonight ..
See Ya.
je ne sais pas si on a le droit de blâmer notre parents car ce n'est pas leur faute mais c'est la façon sur laquelle ils ont été élevés et peut être parcequ'ils pensent que c'est pour notre mieux et cette chose vient dans le cadre de leurs responsabilités en tant que parents envers nous mais on doit s'habituer petit à petit à ne pas adopter cette pensée orientale limité au fait que chacun d'entre nous doit obligatoirement après un certain âge se marier à n'importe qui juste pour se marier en réduisant l'importance du fait que si ces 2 personnes qui vont se marier se complètent ou non...mais pour l'instant on n'a qu'à supporter nos parents en espérant qu'un jour cette pensée limité changera!
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